Relationship Rescue

Each relationship is like “Twin Flames”, meaning two people who remain as individuals, each not becoming overshadowed by the other; two people who learn and grow to together at the same pace. Thus each companion recognizes and understands when one or the other flame starts to flicker.

As we are only human, some of us would like to bury our heads in the sand and hope the problems go away, but relationship problems don't go away until we face up to them and seek advice or help. We tend to leave our personal problems where sometimes disaster hits before we seek advice.

What is relationship repair, and when do I need it?

We have all experienced relationships losing the zing and intrigue that was at the beginning. Some couples don’t even recognize that their relationship has entered a stagnant period, because life has become so hectic with trying to live up to the expectations of today’s society, that they forget to maintain it's vigour.
My philosophy is that relationships will the hardest job we commit to, and we need to work on our most important relationship every day. There is so much advice available to help repair any type of troubled relationships. But first there is a need to recognize if your relationship is in trouble. It is very hard to advise couples when either or both do not see a problem until too late. We need to recognize what the problems are.

SIGNS WE OVERLOOK

Do you find there is no time to spend quality time together with your significant other?
Are your careers or family demand more attention, leaving little time for each other?
Do you argue all the time?
Do you or your companion feel the flame of chemistry dying between the two of you?
Do you take the time to talk about the experiences and activities of each other's day?
Does either of you find a multitude of excuses for not making love?
Do you or your companion prefer to watch TV, rather than to sit and talk to the other?
Do you kiss and cuddle each other before going off to work?
Do you or your companion plan romantic rendezvous for each other?
Does either of you have difficulty discussing personal problems concerning the other?
Has either of you baggage from your past intimate relationships?
Does either of you find it hard to communicate about how you feel about the relationship?
Do you pick up the energies of discontentment with each other?
Do you or your companion find excuses for not spending time together to discuss your changing needs from the relationship?
Do you or your companion feel you don't get enough emotional or physical attention?
Do you or your companion feel that your individuality is overshadowed?
Do you or your companion blame each other for things that are going wrong in the relationship?

These are only a few of the questions we need to ask ourselves and be honest with how you answer each of these questions. By seeking romance repair advice you will be taking the first step to saving your relationship. We can organize face to face talks either by yourself or the two of you together.

RELATIONSHIP REPAIR

We tend to delay facing up to the problems in our personal relationships, and leave it to the last minute to seek help. It is important to seek advice before it is too late to repair the relationship.

As we walk the road of life, we will all experience many kinds of relationships. We seek all sorts of advice when we are experiencing hard times in them. We sometimes need help understanding the other persons in our relationships, recognizing their needs, wants and faults.

I have always said that close relationships will be the hardest jobs we will endeavour to find success at, as they need to be worked on every day. As our relationships progress, sometimes we forget what attracted us to the other person. You can seek relationship and dating advice, but sometimes the question needing to be asked of the people giving the advice is: “Have you walked the walk of troubled relationships to be able to talk the talk?”

When seeking a successful relationship in any area of your life, you need to look at your compatibility in the four main areas of connectedness, namely; physical, spiritual, intellectual and emotional.

For a successful relationship to develop when two people meet, it’s about chemistry, and that is something we can not fake. When you meet, it is something that you feel, it's not about compassion like you have for family, friends or animals.

When your relationship is new, you want to be able to live up to all the expectations of your new companion, sometimes you can lose your own identity trying to achieve a perfect relationship, there is a need to guard against that. Some people need to remember that we need to experience the highs and lows in all our relationships to be able to grow in the four areas of relationship. Understand that there is no such thing as a perfect person, and therefore, no perfect relationship.

It takes time to understand the changes that all relationships go through, and to recognize the signs when something is missing in the relationship. As we advance into a long relationship, things change such as careers, children, finances etc. How we cope with changes can make or break your relationship.

When you stop paying attention to your love companion, because you become so involved in your own circle of concern, this is when your companion might start searching for someone else to fill that void. This is where I come in, to help you to recognize the signs that you need to reignite the chemistry and passion that both of you experienced at the beginning of your relationship.

Questions to ask yourself,

Is the flame of chemistry dying between the two of you?
Do you or your companion take the time to talk about the day he or she had?
Do you or your companion have a multitude of excuses for not making love?
Do you or your companion put work or family before each other?
Do you kiss and cuddle before going off to work?
How do you each react when one or the other isn't interested in making love?
Do you both seek to understand and talk about issues, or do you ignore them and start looking for attention elsewhere?
Has either of you become elusive and hard to understand?
Do you know where to start in dealing with different issues and what to say to your companion to reignite the intimacy between the two of you?
Are you having difficulty communicating your needs and hopes for the relationship?
Has one of you lost self-confidence with the feeling of being overshadowed by your companion?

We human beings are amazing and mysterious creatures. When we enter a relationship, most companions are showered with romantic gestures, and there is the thrill of spontaneity.
As we progress into a life-long companionship, sometimes we can become too predictable. To help mend the cracks in your relationship, start making romantic gestures out of the ordinary, so your companion does not know what to expect next.
Communicate with your companion about issues of concern to you, and listen to the response. If you agree with your partner all the time, it can appear that you are not really listening, or that you don’t much care about any problems raised. The way you respond in casual conversation is very important.

Take notice of the issues both of you are arguing about, try to prevent the arguments, and don’t get too serious, in case either one of you says things you might regret later. If your companion starts an argument, listen well, and then go away and think about what was said and then respond with calmer emotions. When your companion won’t listen to your response, then you have a problem. This is when its time to seek advice.

After the troubled time of a relationship break-up, our self esteem is low, and when we decide to venture into another relationship, a question we might ask ourselves is why that person chose us, when we think others of our gender are more beautiful or more sexy or more intelligent than ourselves. Really, what we have is chemistry with this person, and some degree of compatibility in the four areas; "physical, spiritual, intellectual and emotional needs".

What many people don’t recognize about a relationship break-up is that the ending or passing over requires you to grieve the death of the relationship. There are 7 stages of grieving and we need time to deal with parting. With the ending of a relationship we leave a part of ourselves behind. Take the time to rediscover the person you were before the relationship and rediscover the strengths and weaknesses in yourself. Reinforce your strengths, and reward yourself with special treats as you progress through the different stages of your grieving. Acknowledge your weakness and gather knowledge so you don’t keep making the same mistakes in future relationships.

On meeting a new companion, he or she may try to impress you by telling you their wants and needs, but this may not be what your new companion really wants or needs in this new relationship. People, being only human, when entering a new relationship can be guarded, afraid of letting true feelings show. You need to be tough to survive the demands of different and new relationships.

My relationship repair advice will give you the understanding you need to find and keep that special companion who has entered your life. Through my life experience, I will endeavour to help anyone who has recognized cracks appearing in their relationship.